Marriage Shame

One moment I’m madly deeply in love with my husband and we can’t keep our hands off each other and in the next moment I am totally annoyed with him. How can that be?

I’ve been thinking maybe I don’t have as good of a relationship as I thought I did. Maybe our marriage isn’t that good. I can’t claim to be a relationship coach when my relationship struggles too. Or maybe relationships are just 50/50.

Relationships, just like life, are half great and half awful. Knowing this is liberating because it allows myself to stop judging my thoughts and allows me to embrace it!

I’m embracing the fact that I am annoyed that he bought fresh cranberries instead of dried, I’m embracing that we can go some time without passion in the bedroom and then BOOM ….Fireworks. I’m embracing that I can be judgey and critical of him but still love him deeply.

Stop putting your relationship under a microscope and dissecting every thought or feeling that stems from it. Feeling shame that it isn't what you thought it should be isn’t serving you. Instead have a deep understanding that every relationship is 50/50 so don’t try to just look for the good and ignore all the bad.

The biggest thing I help my clients with is helping them understand that they can write their own love story anyway they want. Sometimes my clients think that they just don’t have the right spouse, that if the husband was different then their relationship would be better. It couldn’t be farther from the truth. We are females that were created to love and share and nurture our spouse. It is only our THOUGHTS that hold us back from the amazing love story we are capable of.