Overwhelmed Mommas

This time of year about three years ago I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. It was my first winter in our 1,000 square foot little log cabin with three children, three large dogs, a husband and a dysfunctional overwhelmed woman (aka me).

I was barely holding it together on the inside, coming undone at the seams, thinking that maybe just maybe if I could control everything outside of me, maybe everything on the inside wouldn’t feel so out of control.

I am, and always have been a woman of action. If something isn’t going my way, if I want something in my life…. I go after it. And HARD.

But with this…. I didn’t even know where to start. I had no concrete game plan for success. I had no step by step process to get to my finish line. I didn’t even know what “success” could look like being a young working mom.

All I knew is that I definitely wasn’t going anywhere, well not anywhere good. It was a scary downhill yucky path that was pulling me further and farther down.

My one saving grace was my sister. My wonderful sister who knew every ugly part of me, and still loved me. Who understood where I came from, who understood my struggles. Who also had just added a third human child to the mix, who also was looking for some light at the end of the tunnel.

We began sharing and well, for lack of a better word complaining to each other. I would tell her how terrible the kids were behaving, how disgusting my house was (I would even send pictures from time to time) because it felt good for someone to hear how terrible my life was. It felt good to connect with someone, I didn’t feel so alone.

When we are overwhelmed and alone its hard to know what to do.

I found that as an overwhelmed momma I needed a couple of things to pull myself out of that scary downhill yucky path.

I needed a deep connection with a non judgemental, loving human being. Whether its a friend, a life coach, a parent etc.

I also needed a clear vision of what this so called “finish line” looked like? Because at the time I had decided “success” as a young mom, looked like happy kids, happy mom, clean house (Oh goodness no!) and a hot meal.

Yes, I put the weight of the world on my shoulders thinking that if all the above things were met, THEN I was succeeding as a mom.

Well no wonder I was headed for a total mental breakdown. I wasn’t overwhelmed because of what was going on in my life, I was overwhelmed because I was thinking that my value as a woman, as a mother were dependent on what everything outside of me looked like…..

No wonder I was coming undone at the seams!

That is where the beauty of life coaching bloomed in my life. It gave me both of those two things I needed so desperately. I needed that deep connection with a non judgmental loving human and I needed a clear vision of where I was headed. (and why!)

Coaching gave me that beautiful clarity I was searching for, Even though I am a woman of great faith and always put that first in my life I needed something more.

Do you constantly find yourself overwhelmed and exhausted from the struggles of life? Are you desiring that deep connection of who you want to be and how you are going to get there? I know it sounds a bit cheezy but I show up here each week not because I’m trying to “sell” you something but because I genuinely believe that I can help you. I can help you find yourself again, I can help you feel joy in your life, I can help free you from your own prison so you can stop being overwhelmed and start feeling loved and powerful.