Marriage Rituals

Every night (okay not EVERY night, but most nights) after my husband and I put the kids to bed we either sit on the couch, or out on the porch and talk. 

We talk about what happened throughout the day, what crazy things our boys did, what our co-worker said to us, how we were feeling throughout the day, what didn’t go our way. Sometimes we cry to each other and tell our deepest sorrows or joys. We talk about our greatest fears, or what traumatic things we experienced in our childhood. We talk about everything…

And we eat ice cream while doing it. (yyuuuppp)

That’s our ritual. 

“Any ritual is an opportunity for transformation.” 

Rituals are anything but passive — they move you into action. Rituals are personal — an experience that fits your emotions and needs. Rituals help you enjoy the journey and provide a sense of purpose in your life. They offer a sense of renewal — a time-out from your everyday routine.

There have been times we haven’t done it, there have been times it looked different. (Maybe a baby with us here or there) 

Throughout the day, I crave that time. I want that sense of renewal I get when it’s just me, my husband, our dog Bella and my bowl of ice cream. 

Sometimes we watch shows, sometimes we talk, sometimes we don’t. But we both know that we are going to end up together in that fashion at the end of the day. 

This is strange I know. But those outside of a daily ritual will find it strange. 

It’s ours, and ours alone. 

I have experienced more healing through the conversations I have had with my husband then any professional help I have sought out. 

It’s not just a chat and some sugar. It’s a consistent, grounding, connection we experience together. 

I ask you, What are your marriage rituals? What space have you created to “connect”, or renew together? 

I know it feels a bit strange, but try it out, see what you come up with.