Non-negotiable Date Night

I get to talk to clients every week about the ultimate goals they want in their lives. I would say my number one outcome my clients want is to have an amazing relationship with there spouse.

I then ask them what they did this week. Answers include… Work, grocery shopping, watching countless hours of Netflix, arguing with spouse about trivial matters, scrolling facebook, tending to the kids.

I then encourage them to spend time away from life and make time for each other. After that suggestion I hear all the reasons why we don’t make that time, reasons such as….we just don’t have the time, or I don’t want to spend the money to go out and pay a babysitter, or I’m just so exhausted at the end of the week.

I then remind them, but you just said your ultimate outcome you want in your life is to have an amazing relationship with your spouse, So is the time your spending in your daily life a reflection on your goals and outcomes you want?

A lot of times the answer is no.

That is okay, you can decide right now that you would like to make a change. It is possible to invest time, money and energy into your relationship even though your a busy full-time working mom. Many people work full-time, have kids, and still make time for regular date nights. For me I only schedule a date night once a month when we go out and leave the kids home, but I schedule time for my husband once a week where I completely leave my phone and life in the other room and show up as a wife and companion.

I’m consistent, If someone requests something of me during scheduled “Jeff Time” or date night I always say no. I say no because date night is nonnegotiable. Time with my spouse is my first priority.