Sex Doesn’t Just Happen

There is a lot that happens before that. Most of us women can’t just snap our fingers and be ready to be intimate in that way. Unfortunately we carry our day with us all night and can’t relax enough to think anything of it. Besides thinking about all the things we need to do, we also haven’t spent anytime thinking about our husband. If we did spend anytime thinking about him it would be how he……

Didn’t unload the dishwasher like we asked him to

That he didn’t even notice I styled my hair differently

How he never puts his phone down to talk to me

That he needs to shave and cut his hair.

We spend so much time and energy thinking about what he is doing wrong and what we need to do. We truly don’t give ourself that time and space to think about what we want.

We want to be more intimate

We want to feel sexy

We want to hold hands and snuggle like we used to

We want to feel playful and desire our partner

We want passion and love in our marriage.

We want a marriage full of hot steamy sex, we want a marriage that is full of love and excitement. We want to flood our marriage with all we have to offer. We want more.

But you don’t know how to get there. This is where we get to decide how we want to write our love story. I have decided that I want to flood my marriage with love and intimacy REGARDLESS of what my husband does or doesn’t do. That is available to me.

I used to think that sex only happened when I got everything “perfect”. I thought sex came when the house was clean and all my to do list was caught up on and after we went on a “perfect” romantic date, then sex happened.

Sex happens when we stop thinking about everything that has gone wrong and start thinking about what we want in our marriage and then takes steps to get there.

We put so much mind drama into it. It is pretty simple, you get to decide what kind of relationship you want REGARDLESS of who you have married. Your husband is perfect, did you know that? He does NOT need to change for you to have a hot steamy sexy life. The only thing that needs to change is how you look at it. I promise you.