New Year & Sweet Mistakes

I went off sugar and flour for 5 months and the last five weeks I’ve been eating lots of sweets and have put weight back on.

Does that mean I’ve completely failed? Or that this food plan just didn’t work for me?

No.

Making mistakes is part of the plan.

Life is made up of highs and lows. Sometimes I stick to my plan and lose a bunch of weight and sometimes I eat ice cream every night. But the real truth is making mistakes is PART OF THE PLAN.

Eating ice cream when I’ve committed not to is part of the plan.

Eating chocolate cake at Christmas is part of the plan.

We are human, mistakes and mixups are the way.

If we can expect that we are going to go off our protocol and be compassionate with yourself when we do then we ARE going to be successful.

We are not successful when we think that we are a total screw up for eating ice cream, and say “screw it” now i’m going to overeat all the time. I’m never going to lose weight. I don't know why I even try.

Thinking that way does NOT serve you!

When we think “I want so badly to lose weight” or “I wish I could fit into those jeans I love so much” thinking that way is passive thinking. It's like a child in a temper tantrum saying “I’m never going to get what I want!”

What if we thought “I will lose weight, I’m going to fit into those jeans” When we start thinking about the version of ourself that is THERE, things begin to change. Thinking in the way of a total commitment is what is going to give us results.

Thinking “I will” is making a promise to ourself that no matter what, we will get what we are after. Not in a passive or bratty way, but in an empowering and committed way.

After we start accepting that we ARE going to make mistakes, we ARE going to binge eat and skip that workout. But when we love ourself no matter what, when we remind ourself that we ARE going to lose weight and fit into the jeans then it really doesn’t matter if we make a mistake.

There is no need to throw in the towel after a couple of mistakes, we don’t need to wallow in our sorrows. We need to remind ourself this is part of the plan, we are going to do it no matter what.

As this New Year approaches we love to pile on the commitments and goals. Pile on the pressure and with that comes much disappointment and uncertainty.

We are disappointed with ourself when we don’t do what we committed to doing.

We are critical with ourself when we don’t go to the gym when we said we would.

We are mad at ourself when we give up, and even tell ourself that we are never going to be where we want to be. We're just not good enough.

What if you took all the pressure off of yourself? What if you made itty bitty teenie tiny commitments…. Like I’ll put my sneakers on 3 days a week. NOT i’m going to do an hour long workout 5 days a week.

What if we had compassion for ourself when we didn’t do what we said we we're going to do?

What if you met yourself right where you were, and said, It’s okay. We are going to keep trying, I can love myself and compassion for myself ESPECIALLY when I made a "mistake".

If you want different results you must do something DIFFERENT! You've tried being naggy and critical to yourself. You've tried to beat yourself up and felt disappointed.

Try something different.