Control Decays Love

I know because I’ve tried to control so many people in my life. But when we try to control them we can’t love them right where they are. We try to change them to fit in our expectations and then when they don’t fit we are disgusted. 

Let me give you a little tip…. Anything and everything outside of us such as, people, places, weather, and things are outside of our control. 

BUT when we feel out of control on the inside we try to control things outside of us. 

That’s where eating disorders come from, that’s why toddlers refuse to nap, or where OCD tendencies from. 

Think about a teenager going through some tough emotional things. When he or she is feeling so much internal turmoil a lot of times you will see them turn to things they can control. Things like food. They try to control there food intake by either eating as much as they can or refusing to eat at all. 

When everything inside of us is out of control, we grab tight to the things we can control. That’s when I started to notice that in my life. 

Control, I love to be in control. I wonder if I naturally was born like this or if its something I've learned to do. Well however I developed it, I have learned A LOT about it the last few years since I've become a married woman, a mother and a business woman. 

But I quickly saw all the terrible things that came to be when I was trying to control everyone and everything around me (outside of me). I quickly learned I CANNOT control things outside of me without it being detrimental to my relationship with that person. 

What we can control is this, “We can control our thoughts. We can control our feelings, our actions, and our results, and what we decide to do with all of them. So, when we try to control the circumstances, we lose our minds.”

“Trying to control other people and what they think is impossible. We can barely control what we think, how do we expect to control what others think?”

To truly empower ourselves we must understand that true change comes when we understand what we can control. Controlling others decays any possibility for love and growth. SO, if you want to see change stop trying to control the impossible (anything outside of us) and start controlling what happens inside of us.

Our thoughts,

Our feelings,

Our actions,

Our results.

Control and love YOU, and see how love flourishes!