Mental Clarity

I want you to imagine that you are going on a hike with a bunch of girlfriends. You all pile out of the car at the base of the mountain and each one of you take a different path up.

You, being the over thinker that you are, go back to the car to get your water bottle, and double check to make sure that you locked the car.

You then stare at the different paths wondering which one you should start up on. You analyze each one playing it all out in your head which one will get you their faster, more efficiently and safer. Maybe even looking at which friend went up which path.

You pick one and start heading up. You come to a large rock face and decide this one is too hard so you head back down to find another path up.

While your down there you go in the car to grab some sunscreen in case someone needs it.

Then pick a new path and head back up. You then come to a grove of prickle bushes and decide this wasn’t the “right” path and head down again.

Meanwhile your girlfriends have all take different paths, overcoming different obstacles all ending up in the same place, the summit. Overlooking the beautiful view and feeling good about what they had just achieved.

But you, Your still swirling around in indecision, not making any progress forward because you are so concerned about making the “wrong” choice that you make no choice at all. You are exerting so much more energy trying to be efficient and prepared that you are left exhausted, confused, and inefficient.

Can you relate? I sure can.

I have always struggled making decisions. I would drag my feet on every little or big decision always asking EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON. I knew what they thought would be the best thing for me. And you know what that does? Makes it a million times harder to make a decision.

So then I would agonize over it.

Until one day I heard these words and have never looked back…

“There’s no right choice, there’s only the choice you make right.”

I can’t make a wrong choice? Phew!

I decided to go with it, that is what I WANTED to believe from that moment forward.

To believe their are no wrong choices we start to learn how to trust ourselves. We start with itty bitty decisions. You don’t give yourself time to wonder, you just make a decision and quickly and then flood your mind with all the reasons that is the best decision.

It goes something like this, “Where do you want to eat for dinner?”

You answer with the first thing that pops in your mind.

“Sumos”

Then, start thinking about all the reasons why that’s a good idea.

“Yeah, Sumos I’m looking forward to having something light, I love all the vegetables they give you, oooo and I LOVE their salads.”

You don’t look back. You don’t question. You make a decision, and you like it. You push through, you persevere and you build more and more self trust along the way.

The reason we don’t like to make a decision is because we don’t want to feel a negative emotion, like regret. We don’t want to have to live with feeling regret. And mommas you know what I’m going to say. An emotion is just a vibration in our body right? We are trying to avoid feeling something negative, SO in the process of that we make our life a living hell. Yup!

We have to start with these itty bitty decisions, start to build up our trust in ourself so when bigger decisions come we have the mental clarity and self trust to choose and to love it!

Let’s flip this concept over for a moment and talk about when we don’t do this. When we can’t make decisions, or when we dabble around with different ideas for long periods of times it wreaks havoc in our life.

It fills our mental capacity with overloaded thoughts and confusion, it causes mental fog, and distraction. Our brain is exerting so much energy trying to figure something out because it is in problem solving mode that we can’t concentrate on other things. It also SLLOOWWWSSSS our life down (Not in a good way may I add!) to sloth mode. We drag everything out, we are filling our brain with confusion and distraction and then become stuck in life.

One of the greatest byproducts of doing thought work is having the mental clarity to make decisions easily and quickly.

I’ve vowed to myself that I would always know the right thing to do. I trust myself enough to make a decision and to like it! To never look back, to push through the prickle bushes, to do the work and climb the rock faces that come after a decision. I vow to never look back, to make every decision I make the best one for me. You know why? Because I love myself, because I’ve got my own back. Because I am strong and know my time is worth so much more than wondering if I’ve done something right. I tell myself, “I always know”. (Which frankly isn’t always true, but it creates this energy of trusting ourself that I sure will figure it out!)

This work is POWERFUL. We all need to love ourself enough to do the thought work so we have mental clarity enough to live our life in peace. To trust ourself, to have our own back. I KNOW you are capable of this. Mommas lets hike!